Why We Must Go Back Before We Can Move Forward

Recovering the Ancient Paths

Where are you going?

A new year brings with it lots of emotions and thoughts. There are plenty of pathways to choose from. The problem is that they all don’t lead anywhere worth going.

We can be busy but be aimless. Or we can move with purpose on a road that will get us where we want and need to be.

To do that we must go back. We must go back to the ancient roads that God has revealed and walk in them. We are not clever enough to find our own way. For ourselves or for our families.

“Thus says the Lord,
“Stand by the ways and see and ask for the ancient paths,
Where the good way is, and walk in it;
And you will find rest for your souls.” – Jer. 6:16

There are so many voices clamoring for our attention–social media, news, entertainment, sensuality, success. There are so many forces that seek to undermine our faith and hope and that of our children.

It All Comes Down to This

But it all comes down to one very important thing. We have to choose to walk. (more…)

How to Walk in Wisdom

Who wants to be foolish? I don’t. I suspect you don’t either. Recently I was reading in the Psalms and came across some encouraging and challenging words I wanted to share with you. This is a prayer of David that we can all learn from.

Teach me how to live, O Lord.
Lead me along the right path,
for my enemies are waiting for me. – Ps. 27:11

Three Observations to Help Us Walk in Wisdom

(1) We must invite God to teach us how to live. This makes the obvious and sometimes uncomfortable assumption that we need to learn–we don’t know everything. Ouch.

Recently our dishwasher started leaking. That’s a problem because if something breaks around the house, I’m not the guy you want fixing it! But in this case I was the best (and only) solution and our budget agreed. So I recognized very quickly that I needed to learn something about how dishwashers worked. Thankfully dishwasher experts left a trail of YouTube videos for me to follow and my ignorance on this particular problem evaporated. You will be happy to know that we are no longer hand washing all the dishes!

(2) We need a reliable guide. This observation is equally humbling. We don’t always know where we are going. In fact, truth be told, we often don’t know where we are going. We’re too stubborn to ask for directions when we know (and everyone else around us knows) that we’re truly lost. We think we are on the right path because it feels good to us. But this approach can be very dangerous. As the book of Proverbs reminds us:

“There is a path before each person that seems right, but it ends in death” (14:12)

Ps. 27:11 clearly teaches that there is a “right” path and by definition this also means there is a wrong path. Whether we happen to believe it or not, there are paths that are spiritual dead ends, morally and relationally toxic, physically harmful, and intellectually dangerous.

Because God loves us he doesn’t want us to take those paths. We need someone who has been there and knows the paths and can coach us in navigating harmful and helpful paths. “When people do not accept divine guidance, they run wild. But whoever obeys the law is joyful” (Prov. 29:18). We need someone who can give us knowledge of how to truly live.

(3) We have real enemies that are trying to harm us. It is easy to forget this truth. Sometimes we are too busy to notice or we are naive when it comes to knowing our own hearts. But there are enemies we need to be aware of waiting to attack from within and from without.  God’s Word is clear on this:

“Do not love this world nor the things it offers you, for when you love the world, you do not have the love of the Father in you. For the world offers only a craving for physical pleasure, a craving for everything we see, and pride in our achievements and possessions. These are not from the Father, but are from this world. And this world is fading away, along with everything that people crave. But anyone who does what pleases God will live forever.” (1 John 2:15-17)

And

“Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour.” (1 Peter 5:8)

What we watch, listen to, think about. How we spend our time. Who we spend our time with. Who we invite to teach us. What we say yes and no to–all are leading us toward life or death. And we need to remember that we have an enemy that is actively trying to destroy us. We don’t need to walk in fear, but we do need to be alert so that we don’t blindly step into traps.

One of the first steps to walking in wisdom is to take the truths contained in David’s prayer recorded in Psalm 27:11 seriously. Pray them and apply them. We need to invite God to teach and guide us while we are on the look out for the enemies that seek to destroy us.

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How to Prepare Teenagers for College and Beyond – New Podcast

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There’s a lot of confusion among teenagers today…

  • 72% of 18-29 year olds self identify as “Spiritual but not religious”
  • 54% of “conservative protestant” teenagers affirmed that there was more than one way to God
  • 32% of 13-17 year olds left their faith behind because of “intellectual skepticism”
  • Less than “one-half of one percent of adults in the Mosaic generation – i.e., those aged 18 to 23 – have a biblical worldview.”
  • 60% percent of young people who went to church as teens drop out or disengage after high school.

In light of these challenges, what can you do as a parent to prepare your teenager to flourish in college? To not just see them survive the challenges of college life, but to see them influence others for Jesus Christ? I talk about this and more in the latest Think Christianly podcast (iTunes / RSS).

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What do you think is the greatest challenge that today’s students face in college?

So….should you let your kids watch Glee?

We’ve already talked abou Yoga this week…so why not add Glee to the mix just to keep things interesting (and a little controversial).

Regarding TV shows in general, Jonathan McKee has written a very helpful article on the three buttons every parent needs to use (required reading here). Personally I think that TiVo / DVR are a great ally to parents today.
But considering that Glee ‘went all the way’ this week featuring two of the show’s teenage couples each losing their virginity, a homosexual couple (Kurt and Blaine), and a heterosexual couple (Finn and Rachel), how should a parent help their kids navigate a really popular show like this?
Time Magazine weighs in with their article, What Teen Sex on “Glee” Really Teaches Kids.

Jonathan McKee has written another helpful article about discernment and the choice he ultimately made for his family with teenagers regarding Glee. (read here)
“Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.” – Romans 12:2 (NLT)

When Are Teenagers Ready To Date?

This past sunday I spoke to our teenagers and college students on how to have healthy dating relationships. Here are 3 ways you know if you (or if you are a parent your son / daughter) is ready to date:

1. When you have a picture in your mind of the “right kind of person” you will not settle less for (silhouette).

  • A good name is more desirable than great riches; to be esteemed is better than silver or gold – Proverbs 22:1
  • A good rule of thumb: If you would not marry this kind of person, then don’t date this kind of person. Date actual, not potential.

2. When you are more interested in / focused on BECOMING the right kind of person than FINDING the right person.

  • Cultivating your relationship with God and building character now is the best thing you could do for your future relationships.

3. When you know what physical / moral / emotional boundaries you will not compromise on in order to get that other person to like you.

  • Special note for girls: If this guy is pressuring you physically or morally, run as fast as you can in the other direction! WHY? He obviously does not respect and obey God. And if he doesn’t respect and obey God’s Word, then he will break your heart to get what he wants…you are worth WAITING for!

The Bottom Line: Being lonely with hope of a GOOD relationship is much better than being stuck in a BAD relationship filled with frustration and regrets…and worse still if you get married to them someday with NO WAY OUT.

“He who walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools suffers harm” – Proverbs 13:20

This is ESPECIALLY true when it comes to dating relationships. Click here to learn more about healthy relationships during the high school and college years